We laughed, we cried...we did naughty things in the church, which got my photographer yelled at as she took pictures. So many baubles, shiny things, and deep, dark colours...
All of you asked us where we got them. I promised to post links in the aftermath, and here they are. I was going to wait until photos began to surface, but I keep getting emails and such, so...
1. The custom bridesmaid dresses, as you saw them, were a deep dark burgundy/red taffeta with lace trim. They were made by Maria of 1880 Victoriana on eBay. I took one of her previous designs and she allowed me to alter it to fit my needs. I took off the mutton sleeves and capped them at the elbow, adding the lace trim. I took off the high Victorian neckline, to a more saucy (cleavage-friendly) square with trim. That's pretty much all I asked to be changed; the bustle and skirt are similar to her other dresses. She currently has the design in a striking blue satin (with black lace trim) up for auction at a mere $149 - custom size to fit you.
2. The frickity-frackin' AMAZING flowers were done by Mandy Scott of Mandy Scott Flowers on Union Street. She is very affordable, and took my simple traditional victorian vision above and beyond fruition. I asked for jewel tones...she gave me colors that popped amazingly. Blood red orchids, roses that were so deep and dark they were almost black, black dahlias, deep dark red peonies, and some unassuming lilacs for contrast here and there in the smaller bridesmaid bouqets (which had bright pinks and purples in roses along with the dark reds too). Even in their wear and tear from Saturday, they are still alive in water all over the house today (Wednesday). Unfortunately the gardienias she left for my hair after the veil came off got left at the church. But they were part of the original plan.
3. The FOOD. Oh gods, yes...the food. It was done by the ever-amazing Kass Kapsiak of (the same name) Catering. She doesn't have a website, but I can give you her number if you ping me. She and her crew worked tirelessly for us, and even made sure we had a left over sirlion roast (as she told me I would forget to eat, and I did). The phenominal oysters and oyster shucking was courtesy of Bill Callahan, also known as Bill the Oyster Man. Another wonderful friend and amazingly cool person (with amazingly cool oyster-ju-ju. I met him while doing a performance reading of 25 commissioned poems for Bonny Doon Vineyard's Albarino and Oysters wine release party almost two years ago. He's one awesome guy.
4. The Wine... St. Supery 2006 Virtu (White Bordeaux Blend), St. Supery 2001 Cabernet Sauvignon (Jeraboam), Domaine Coulange 2003 Cotes du Rhone, Domaine Chandon Brut Classic (Magnums), Bonny Doon Angel Paille (dessert white), Bonny Doon Bouteille Call (Raspberry Port).
5. The magnificent CAKE! Chef Earl of Lotta's Bakery and Antique Shoppe on Polk made our three-tier blackstrap molassas gingerbread cake with cream cheese frosting. It went so fast...and there wasn't a person at the party who didn't love this cake.
6. The vintage reproduction Victorian Bustle Gown wedding dress was made by Julius Bridal of New York, though I don't see the gown available any longer on their new and improved website. If you ping me for the style number, I'll email it to you. The mens tuxedos were tails with waist coats and cravats, done by (believe it or not) Men's Warehouse. I'm pretty sure you can find that link yourself. tee hee.
The striped can-can stockings I wore were white/black by Leg Avenue, and the bridesmaids wore nude/black. The shoes are discontinued, but they were Poetic License "Forever Mine" in hot pink velvet. They also come in teal blue and black, which ARE available in select sizes. The stunning custom blue brocade waist-cincher was made by Dark Garden Corsetry. The coffin-box motif crystal and sterling silver jewelry was Givenchy (purchased at Macy's a month or so ago...so probably still available).
The black velvet chokers the bridesmaids and mothers wore I made myself, but the glass hearts came from Terrasol. Their feathered hair pieces with attached black peridot veils were also custom made by me. The dresses the mothers of bride and groom wore were the Velvet Sparkling Gown from Recollections.
7. Our beautiful wedding rings (as well as my engagement ring) were made by Simayof.
8. The neo-gothic church was Grace Cathedral in San Francisco, which is pro gay and pro female ministry.
9. Photography by Ayda Meisami - Camera Obscura Photographic Arts (with a lot of help also by Dawn Colvin).
If I'm missing something you asked me about, feel free to drop me a line. I'll post photos as they come in.